This week I will discuss how dwelling in God’s love through daily surrender of the will to Jesus affects one of the 3 major aspects of oneness: Bonding (By the way, the principles of oneness can be applied to all relationships).
Webster’s dictionary defines the word bond as, anything that binds, fastens or restrains. Therefore, bonding is the process of growing in the thing that binds people together. In marriage the thing that binds people together is love. Those who dwell in God’s love are guaranteed to have a stronger bonding because the love that binds them is selfless: Their marriage is bound by a love that desires to give selflessly for the good of the other: The more they give love the more they receive love from God and the more they receive God’s love the more they express (give) God’s love to one another (see I John 4:7-8 & 16-18). Therefore, the process of bonding gets stronger because the more they dwell in God’s love the more perfectly they will express God’s love to one another and the more God’s purpose for marriage will be accomplish because His glory (loving Character) will be reproduced and spread through that union.
Those who do not dwell in God’s love are bound by a love that is selfish because it looks to the other person to meet their needs instead of God. The couple that bond from selfish or self-centered love cannot reach the oneness that those who bond from a selfless or God-centered love can because the couple that bonds from God-centered love will bond as long as God meets their needs, but the couple that bonds from self-centered love will only bond as long as their spouse meets their need: Human love fails but God’s love never fails (see I Corinthians 13:8).
Next week I am going to show how dwelling in God’s love through daily surrender of the will to Jesus enhances another important aspect of oneness: Control. Until then I leave you with this portion of scripture and God inspired quote to ponder and pray over:
13:34 A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. 13:35 By this shall all [men] know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another. John 13:34-35 (Emphasis supplied).
The heart yearns for human love, but this love is not strong enough, or pure enough, or precious enough to supply the place of the love of Jesus… It is only in Christ that a marriage alliance can be safely formed. Human love should draw its closest bonds from divine love. Only where Christ reigns can there be a deep, true, unselfish affection. The Faith I Live By p. 256 para. 5&6