2:8 Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ. 2:9 For in him dwelleth all the fulness of the Godhead bodily. 2:10 And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power: Colossians 2:8-10 (Emphasis supplied).
When we understand and accept the truth expressed in Colossians 2:8-10 we understand that we are not really ready for marriage or any other relationship unless we are experiencing fulfillment in the single life. This is exactly why we are told:
4:1 From whence [come] wars and fightings among you? [come they] not hence, [even] of your lusts that war in your members? 4:2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. 4:3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume [it] upon your lusts. James 4:1-3 (Emphasis supplied).
The reason for all human conflict is because we have been spoiled by the lie that we are made complete by the people, places and things of this world rather than in dwelling in the fullness of God’s love. Therefore we fight each other trying to get our fleshly desires met to no avail. The reason we have wars is because our fleshly desires have not been satisfied on a personal level and we are driven to fight harder and compete with each other to get our desires met until the fight escalates to national and worldwide levels. The only way to bring about the peace and healing that is needed is to accept the truth expressed in Colossians 2:8-10 which tells us that the only way we are ever going to get our desires met fully is to surrender all to Jesus daily because in Him only are we made complete.
When we accept this truth it will cause us to fight the right fight: The fight of faith (I Timothy 6:12). The more we fight that fight the less we will fight each other because Jesus will began to fill us with His perfect healing love which will cast out our fears and give us the ability to stop fighting and competing with one another and start forgiving and trusting one another. The forgiveness will start first on a personal level and continue to spread until it reaches to everyone we have contact with (see Luke 2:12-14). This is why the sign that we are disciples of Jesus is that we love one another as He loves us (John 13:34&35) and that we are one with one another like He and the Father are one (John 17: 20-23).
In summary, the reason the truth in Colossians 2:8-10 makes marriage happier is because it first makes the single life fulfilling.
In my next blog I will show how the truth expressed in Colossians 2:8-10 makes divorce a blessing. Until then I leave you with this portion of scripture to ponder and pray over.
19:3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made [them] at the beginning made them male and female, 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.