19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made [them] at the beginning made them male and female, 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Matthew 19:4-6 (Emphasis supplied).
The next mathematical principle that is used to become one by those who do not dwell in God’s love is subtraction. This mathematical principle comes to the number one by taking a lesser number from a greater number, for example: 2 – 1 = 1. Those who believe in this method of achieving oneness believe that the strong should rule and weak should serve. Therefore a man should be either macho or henpecked or a woman should be either subservient or a dominatrix.
Those who achieve oneness by the subtraction method say things like: I wear the pants in this house. I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have my husband to take care of me. If my husband gets on my bad side he sleeps on the couch for days. I don’t like it when my wife yells at me and the kids but what can I do, she makes more money than me.
These statements may sound very unromantic but to those who believe in the subtraction method they sound good because their main purpose for getting married is to feel powerful and in control. Even the ones that are submitting to the other are doing it because they feel they could never be powerful and in control on their own so they depend on the one they feel is powerful enough to give them this feeling.
However, the subtraction method will never achieve the oneness that glorifies God or that truly satisfies the desires of the heart of those who use it because it depends on:
- The wrong source: Humanity.
- The wrong kind of love: Selfish
- The wrong purpose: To feel powerful and in control.
Next week we are going to deal with the third and final mathematical method that is used to achieve oneness by those who do not dwell in the love of God: Division. Until then I leave you once again with this portion of scripture to ponder and pray over:
4:16 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. 4:17 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. I John 4:16-18 (Emphasis supplied).